Today we’re going to be talking about the phenomena of baby readiness. Are you ready to have a baby, or do you keep delaying it, or should you wait to be ready before you try to conceive?
Everybody is different and everybody’s circumstances are different, and some of the women I see in the clinic do unfortunately end up regretting the path that they took.
Today many women wait to have their perfect career, partner etc. and it doesn’t always follow in the order that you expect it to. The biggest thing I want to get across today is the delays to fertility. On average it can take 8-12 months to conceive, so a lot of my time is spent managing the expectations of a woman on how long it might take, because many expect it to happen sooner.
Also, if it takes 8-12 months to conceive, a miscarriage is really common when you first get pregnant, which means you have to pick yourself up and try again. And then if you do get pregnant, you might want to have another baby after you’ve recovered. So I think it’s about looking ahead and thinking how many children you want.
Quite often, women will come and see me at the age of 35 and say that they’re going to wait a year or two before they start trying. I always encourage them to start as soon as they can, because you can see at 35 how you can get to 37 or 38 before you’ve even had a baby. So instead it’s about making a rational decision about how many children you want, but also understanding the delays and the pitfalls that can happen along the way. Although there are a lot of tests now that can help you gage your fertility, the hard thing about it is that it is not black and white, there are so many shades of grey. It’s important to look back and have no regrets, and know that you’ve done everything you possibly can.
It’s not about being 100% ready to have a baby, it’s about looking back and having no regrets.
Are you ready for a baby, or do you feel like you’re not ready yet? Watch the video and leave a comment below.