Anxious Man

Is trying to conceive giving your man performance anxiety?

Performance anxiety around fertility is a perfectly normal and natural feeling. The way in which some women constantly track and monitor their fertility can put pressure on their men, especially around the time of ovulation. The woman focuses on her fertile time, her anxiety goes up, she tells her partner to ‘come home immediately’, his anxiety goes up, and so on. Sound familiar?

As I said, this is common and understandable, but can unfortunately cause a lot of upset, frustration and arguments within the couple. This week on the Fertility Show, I share my key tips on what to do when trying to conceive gives your man performance anxiety:

And as always, here is the cheat sheet!

  1. Focus on the sperm not the egg, because the egg lasts for 24 hours and the sperm lasts for 3-5 days.
  2. Don’t feel like you need to tell your man every little detail about your cycle – at the end of the day, it’s a passion killer!
  3. Take the pressure off one another! Try talking to each other properly about how you can get past this hurdle together.
  4. For a man to be able to perform, he needs passion, and scheduling your sex life and giving him specific times when he needs to be home can ruin that. Try to come up with a plan together on how to keep this time fun and romantic.
  5. For many men with performance anxiety, it’s present for a short period of time such as during the time that you are trying for a baby. But for others, it can be a sign of something underlying. Don’t be afraid to go to your GP, just to make sure everything is okay.

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Is acupuncture the key to IVF success?

I’ve been an acupuncturist for 25 years now, and so I’ve always been a huge believer in its benefits for fertility and IVF.

I think what’s difficult for some women however is that there’s a lot of conflicting advice out there – it really is hard to know what to believe.

But I’ve got news for you straight from the annual fertility conference in Helsinki: a study has found acupuncture can in fact double the success rate of IVF.

This week The Fertility Show is all about acupuncture and IVF, and why I think it really can make a difference:

So how can acupuncture  help?

It may help with blood flow to the ovaries which means more oxygen, more nutrients and more help developing the follicles. It may also help with stress and beta-endorphin release, which means a greater sense of relaxation and wellbeing! It really can give you that bit of extra support that you need, and be that one thing that you have control over to help improve the process.

And how does acupuncture work?

It is a form of Chinese traditional medicine that involves the insertion of very fine, hair-like needles into channels called meridians. These are invisible channels of energy that relate to different organs in the body. The form of treatment is individualised – every person has a different type of treatment because we are all different! But there are very similar channels that are used in that treatment that will help with blood flow to the uterus and the ovaries, and that will help manage your stress.

Have you had acupuncture? If so, what was your experience like, and how has it helped you? We want to hear from you! Just subscribe to the channel and comment below the video.