Sex & Conception: Your Questions Answered

Sex and conception are topics that often come with a mix of excitement, anticipation, and sometimes, confusion.

Understanding the ins and outs can be crucial. From timing intercourse to debunking myths about the best positions, there's a lot to consider when trying to conceive.

Zita is on hand to address some common questions and concerns surrounding sex and conception, providing clarity and guidance for couples embarking on this remarkable journey.

1. I’ve been trying for a baby with my husband for over a year and are finding we can’t always perform due to pressure. What shall I do?

Pressure and performance anxiety can significantly impact a couple's ability to conceive. It's important to remember that occasional difficulties are entirely normal and don't indicate a problem with fertility.

To alleviate pressure, try to avoid scheduling sex around ovulation and focus on spontaneous intimacy. Open communication and support are key in navigating this journey together.

2. Can I have oral sex when trying for a baby?

During the fertile window, it's advisable to avoid oral sex as saliva contains enzymes that can be harmful to sperm.

Opting for other forms of intimacy during this time can help maintain a conducive environment for conception.

3. What is the best position to conceive?

Rather than focusing on specific positions, couples should prioritise comfort and intimacy. There's no one-size-fits-all approach to conception, so embrace what feels natural and enjoyable for you and your partner.

4. When is the best time to have sex in order to conceive?

Timing is important, but consistency matters more than specific times. Having sex regularly throughout the menstrual cycle increases the chances of conception. However, mornings may be optimal for conception due to higher testosterone levels in men.

5. Is flowback normal?

Flowback, or the leakage of semen after intercourse, is a common occurrence and doesn't typically affect fertility. A small portion of ejaculate consists of sperm, so any leakage is unlikely to impact conception.

6. Do I need an orgasm to conceive?

While orgasms can enhance the experience, they are not necessary for fertilisation to occur. Focus on intimacy and connection with your partner, rather than solely on achieving orgasm, when trying to conceive.

7. Should you save up sperm leading up to your fertile window?

Contrary to popular belief, abstaining from sex to "save up" sperm can decrease fertility by reducing sperm motility and quality. Regular ejaculation helps maintain healthy sperm, increasing the chances of conception.

8. How long does sperm last after sex?

Sperm can survive within the female reproductive tract for up to 5-7 days after ejaculation, emphasising the importance of regular intercourse throughout the fertile window to maximise the chances of conception.

9. Does elevating your legs after sex help conception?

While the idea of elevating legs post-sex is common, there's limited evidence to support its effectiveness in enhancing fertilisation. Instead, focus on maintaining healthy sperm and ensuring regular intercourse to optimise your chances of conception.

Navigating the journey to conception can be both exciting and daunting. By addressing common questions and dispelling misconceptions surrounding sex and conception, couples can approach this chapter with confidence and clarity.

Remember, each couple's journey is unique, and there's no one "right" way to conceive. By prioritising communication, intimacy, and mutual support, you can embark on this remarkable adventure with optimism and resilience.